some people tell me frens are just tools to get what you want. yes, perhaps through a friend, you obtain a listening ear who is willing to hear you complain. you can enjoy the benefits from a friendship. the issue is, does one focus on getting such advantages all the time, even when one is reciprocating? are there other emotions involved? drop the evolutionary perspective aside, are friends just tools to you?
sunbear acknowledges that people often have a motive for the self when they interact with other people. she is aware that social animals depend on one another for survival. what sunbear does not like is when there are some people who seem to constantly treat friends as tools. Maybe it's just sunbear, refusing to admit that we are just objects, void of feelings.
sunbear acknowledges that people often have a motive for the self when they interact with other people. she is aware that social animals depend on one another for survival. what sunbear does not like is when there are some people who seem to constantly treat friends as tools. Maybe it's just sunbear, refusing to admit that we are just objects, void of feelings.
posted by nuaster at 11:56 PM
13 Comments:
guess sometimes, some people focus too much on what they themselves want(whateva their motives are) that certain times, became too obvious and specific that friends became "tools" for them. But not always. =]
We might be tools of 'friends' n society...but believe, that friends does exist, coz we are friends...
I don't disagree that friends are tools but not JUST tools. It's a matter of perception again. It's just like either you're fat or horizontally advantaged. It's how you see it:)
But bear in mind that there are friends out there who does things just for your happiness sake, who asks for nothing in return. True friendship does exist.
to the 2 babes:
sigh.. i think i'm just a bias MORON!!! PUUUI!!!
nevertheless, thank you for accepting this bias MORON as a friend!! *hugz*
There are no such things as permanent friends. Just permanent interests. Admit it and live with it...
althought u wont use ppl as a tool.. but ppl will just use u..
how sad eh?
as long as we are answerable to our heart standing tall and proud
and die leaving the world a regretless soul.
uncle no no:
answerable to our hearts... =) there is still hope in this world!
Two monks were washing their bowls in the river when they noticed a scorpion that was drowning. One monk immediately scooped it up and set it upon the bank. In the process he was stung. He went back to washing his bowl and again the scorpion fell in. The monk saved the scorpion and was again stung. The other monk asked him, "Friend, why do you continue to save the scorpion when you know it's nature is to sting?"
"Because," the monk replied, "to save it is my nature."
although ppl are like that..
but i am like this..
there is hope.. just this punnie bit
Hey...I like what ah ming said. Positive connotation:) And ah ling, yesterday I experienced what you meant by friends are just tools. Sad. Nevertheless, I know not everyone's like that.
oh well.. i experience tat a lot of times laio le..
but it is in our nature to help others rite?
less those rotten ones..
jiayouZ
i like wat ah ming said. =)
Scopions stings, but i will still save it despite the stings. This is me. (just like who ah ming is).
Unfortunately, experienced this as well in school...but i still believe. friends are still friends, even if they stings sometimes...(or stinks =P) bahaha...
ah ming: i dint say sunbear stinks hor!! YOU said!!! bahaha..
k, its dreamer trying hard to be funny again...haha! xD
Climb on babe!!
woo~~ i'm a stinging scorpion at times!! now i know i have 2 nuns n a monk who will save me! haha
*hugz* the world is more beautiful with you guys around!!
PS: yesh i stink.. hahaha..
muahaha..
sunbear nice bear bear
not gouchy nor grumpy..
quick start one more topic..
and let ZEN master enlightened u!!
hee
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